4.1 What Are Family Patterns That Have Shaped How I View the World?

[Martha]

One of the things that was revealed to me this week after contemplating about my negative family patters is that I was never taught how to develop and or maintain healthy relationships. Growing up we moved a lot so I never really knew what it was like to have long term friends and those i did manage to make were always short term because we would move. I was 15 before we actually settled and by then cliques were already developed and i always seemed to be on the outside looking in. when i didnt seem to fit in one place, I would move on to the next. I have met many people over the years but only developed a few close friendships. In the last few years these friends have passed away and i have discovered that trying to develop new friendships (later in life) has been very difficult because i have built many walls to protect my feelings and emotions.

I am thankful for the community of spiritual women that God has placed in my life. We meet on a monthly basis and this was discussed last evening with them. I am blessed that the Holy spirit has began the healing process in my heart and the walls have began to be dismantled and new healthy relationships have began to be formed.

[Melanie]

One thing that was revealed to me through this lesson is my part in the relations that is unhealthy. I believed that is was one sided for a long time, but now I see how I was part of the issue. I was my insecurities that I believe was the root of my behavior.